Am I a good mom?
I often used to battle with the topic of whether I was doing enough for my daughter?
Am I providing her enough?
Would I be able to raise her as my parents raised me?
Whenever my daughter misbehaved, I asked myself where am I wrong?
Sometimes when things used to go worse, I used to think ” Am I capable enough to be a mom?”
So I after 9 years of being mom, I realised all moms are good in their own ways.
This is how I overcame my fear and accepted that I am a superb mom.
1. Stopped Comparing
I often used to compare myself to other moms who had their home neat and clean, well mannered kids or kitchen full of yummy dishes.
I felt like” God why can’t I do this all?”.
But the fact is no one is perfect. We always do our best.
So if I don’t compare my home,kids or dishes with other moms, I am doing a pretty good job myself.
2. Good Health
Eat healthier, think healthier and speak healthier.
The truth is if my body is not fit, my mind isn’t fit.They always work together.
I don’t necessarily need a zero figure but a fit body in order to function properly. Otherwise things get messed up.
I get cranky when I am sick. Some times I speak things I don’t intend to. And then I regret.
So to avoid these situations, I have started taking care of my health.
3. Shared my problems
I used to keep things to myself whenever I had any problem with any of the family members.
I thought they’ll feel bad if I tell them my problems.
But my behaviour told them all. And it used become a bigger problem than it really was.
So instead of solving all the problems by myself, I started to discuss the problem and find solutions together.
This also helped in bringing us close.
4. Stopped trying to be perfect
I always thought I would be a perfect mother.
So when I wasn’t able to cook her favourite dish perfectly, I used to feel guilty.
Though I am a pretty good cook but I always thought its not enough.
But then I realised I am not a professional chef to make perfect dishes.
I am a mother and stay as mother. I can’t compare myself to professionals who have given lot of time and efforts to reach there.
So instead of trying to be perfect in all task, I try to be good enough.
5. Find time for myself
After leaving my job I have surrounded myself with family and ignored my friends.
And that was my biggest mistake. You should never leave your friends.
After reconnecting with them, I started taking out time for myself.
And found happiness with my friends and family.
And that was my journey from mom to supermom…